Teen self esteem and dating
All kids and teens need to accept responsibility for their behavior. To help children learn self-discipline, the parent needs to adopt the role of coach/teacher rather than that of disciplinarian and punisher.
Often without thinking about it, parents fortify their youngsters’ self-esteem every day, whether it’s by complimenting them on a job well done, kissing them good-bye (assuming they still allow it) or disciplining them for breaking a rule.
What we think determines how we feel and how we feel determines how we behave.
It is important to learn to use “I statements” rather than “You statements” when giving criticism.
You found a place for every thing and put each thing in its place.” When you observe them showing a talent you might say, “That last piece you played was great.
You really have a lot of musical talent.” Don’t be afraid to give praise often even in front of family or friends.
For instance say, “I would like you to keep your clothes in the proper place in your closet or drawers not lying all over your room;” rather than saying “Why are you such a lazy slob? ” Please refer to our page, Guidelines for Good Communication With Children for more suggestions.
For detailed suggestions on how to get children to act responsibly while achieving a good parent/child relationship, check out Kid Cooperation.